• Karissa

Don't Talk To Me: Battling Negative Self Talk

By the end of the day, I am exhausted from fighting through the pain every second. I notice that my self talk gets more and more negative the more tired I get. As I was brushing my teeth and washing my face before bed the other night, I finally looked myself in the eye through the mirror and said out loud “DON’T TALK TO ME.”

I’m not sure if this is a low or a high point for me personally. It doesn’t help that I had a pore strip on my nose. But let me tell you, even if I was talking to myself in a mirror while looking absolutely ridiculous, it worked.

Jesus’ phrase “For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” is a vivid picture of our hearts through our verbal communication. But I think it is a good check for our thought life too.

The way we talk to ourselves is a good indicator of where we are at heart-wise.

Of where we are letting the holy spirit in and where we need to let some more light in.

When you look in the mirror, what do you think? Are you disgusted with your looks? Are you constantly berating yourself for not doing better? Are you constantly comparing yourself with others? Judgey? Anxious? Depressed? (Anxiety and depression are not just “emotional” conditions, but mental and physical that medical doctors help with. I am in no way saying or believe that either are results of or just negative self talk. Knowing from experience, changing the way you think about yourself can help a little in those times). If we are in a cycle of negative self talk, what do we do?Here’s what I have started doing:


PREACH GIRL. I get up on my little pedestal like I did when I was five and start preaching. But this is just to myself. In my head. And a bit more theologically advanced than when I was five making my family listen to the sermons I preached from the fireplace with my flute music stand holding my kids bible. Same idea though. Preach to yourself truth. Pray for the holy spirit to help you. Encourage yourself, rebuke yourself, claim what is truth and what are lies.

Know your bible

In the armor of God, the only offensive weapon is the “sword of the spirit”, AKA the bible. It is imperative for every aspect of life that we are immersed in God’s word, meditating on it, and memorizing it. It is our weapon in the battle for our heart, and it stands against the enemy’s lies every time.

Focus on God

Direct your thoughts towards God. Praise him. Pray to him. Focus on who HE says you are.

The battle for our thought life is a powerful example of the bigger battle happening. “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

This week, go to battle. And if you have to, just look yourself in the eye (you’ll need a mirror), and say “DON’T TALK TO ME.”